Rebuttal
This editorial was written in reaction to last month's column by Maureen Dowd.
Why Dowd Doesn't Know What Men Really Want By Rivers and Barnett Today's
commentators say it's a shame that Maureen Dowd should depend on such flaky research and
flimsy evidence when writing about feminism. Dowd's article, based on weak research, was
the most e-mailed story from The New York Times yesterday. Editor's Note: The following is a commentary. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not necessarily the views of Women's eNews.(WOMENSENEWS)--A
growing media narrative over the past year says men do not like high-achieving women. It's been fueled
by stories in, among others, The New York Times, the Chicago Sun Times, Toronto Star,
"60 Minutes" and the Atlantic magazine. This drumbeat
reached its zenith Sunday in Maureen Dowd's New York Times Magazine piece, "What's A
Modern Girl to Do?" The article has
become the most e-mailed article from the Times' Web site and has left Dowd fielding
readers' mail on "the past and future of feminism." What a waste of
such a powerful platform. If only Dowd--capable of such wit, charm and political
insight--had bothered to check her social science data. "Decades
after the feminist movement promised equality with men," Dowd laments, "it was
becoming increasingly apparent that many women would have to brush up on the venerable
tricks of the trade: an absurdly charming little laugh, a pert toss of the head, an air of
saucy triumph, dewy eyes and a full knowledge of music, drawing, elegant note writing and
geography. It would once more be considered captivating to lie on a chaise lounge, pass a
lacy handkerchief across the eyelids and complain of a case of springtime giddiness." For this surreal
description of contemporary men and women, Dowd draws on "data" that shows her
running with the media pack, yes, but sadly out of touch with serious social science. An Alleged
Trend In particular,
Dowd hypes an alleged trend of men rejecting ambitious women based on a 2004 study by
psychology researchers. Those findings, by psychologists Stephanie Brown of the
The study was
done on a small sample of 120 male and 208 female undergraduates, mainly freshmen. The males rated
the desirability as a dating or marriage partner of a fictitious female, described as
either an immediate supervisor, a peer or an assistant. Surprise,
surprise! The freshman males preferred the subordinate over the peer and over the
supervisor when it came to dating and mating. The study,
however, was no barometer of adult male preferences. Rather, it reflected teen boys'
ambivalence about strong women. Men, by
contrast, do not reject achieving women. Quite the opposite. Sociologist Valerie
Oppenheimer
of Evolutionary
Theory Another major
problem with the college students study was that investigators claimed an evolutionary
basis, namely, that men's drive to reproduce their genes leads them to prefer relatively
subordinate, docile females. By the same
evolutionary token, then, women should be "hardwired" to seek as mates men who
are older, dominant and in control of financial resources. But that same college study
found nothing of the sort. Instead, the young women showed no preference for dominant
males over other males for either dating or mating. The notion that
women are driven by their genes to seek older, rich men has been skewered by recent
research. Alice Eagly
of It found that in
societies where women have access to resources, they do not choose older
"provider" males to marry. Instead, they go for men who are kind, intelligent
and can bond with children. Yes, when women
can't pay their own way, rich older men look pretty good, even if they don't change
diapers or listen to what a woman has to say. But when women bring home the bacon
themselves, they start looking for something quite different in a guy. Dredging
Up the IQ Study Dowd dredges up
another study about men not liking smart women. This one was conducted by investigators at
four British universities (Edinburgh, Glasgow, Really bad news
for bright women, right? Not. Neither
Dowd nor the Should a study
of octogenarian women be taken as a guide for today's young people? No. Dowd also
recycles Sylvia Ann Hewlett's argument, from her book "Creating a Life," that
high-achieving women tend to be miserable and often childless. For a challenge to that
data, read Heather Boushey of the Center for Economic Policy Research. In a 2002 published
study based on several large government data sets, Boushey found high achievers little
different from other working women. From 36 to 40,
high achievers are more likely to be married and have kids than other female workers, but
they marry later than other women. Boushey found that women between the ages of 28 and 35
who work full time and earn more than $55,000 a year or have a graduate or professional
degree are just as likely to be successfully married as other working women. Dowd writes that
many women today "want to be Mrs. Anonymous Biological Robot in a Docile Mass. They
dream of being rescued; to flirt, to shop, to stay home and be taken care of." And so
forth. Irritating
Fluff Dowd's writing
is fun, but is basically a bunch of irritating fluff. As a piece of
institutionally self-serving evidence, for instance, she refers to a recent front-page
story in The New York Times about young women attending an Ivy League college who were
planning to reject careers in favor of staying home and raising children. The article
claimed that 60 percent of women in two Yale dorms wanted to jettison careers and be
stay-at-home moms. The story was
not written by a Times reporter. It was written by a journalism student doing her graduate
thesis who based her story on an e-mail survey. Slate media writer Jack Shafer found the
"facts" in the story so flimsy that the reporter "deserves a week in the
stockades. And her editor deserves a month." He pointed out that the writer used the
word "many" 12 times in place of statistics. Writing in The
Nation, columnist Katha Pollitt said she had contacted a number of people at Yale,
including professors and students who were interviewed. She said not one felt the story
fairly represented women at Yale. Many students said they'd thrown away the reporter's
questionnaire in disgust. Physics
professor Megan Urry polled the 45 female students in her class and only two said they
planned to stay at home as the primary parent. When Dowd bases
her views of men and women on such poor research, it's no wonder that Dowd looks into the
crystal ball of feminism and finds the picture so disconcerting. Caryl Rivers
is a professor of journalism at We invite your
comments on this story. E-mail us at
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